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16 Things Black People Wish They Could Explain To Their White Friends

Originally posted on Mukoko:

Over the years, there is one observation I’ve made about black people in various social situations. Amongst fellow black people, we don’t feel the need to explain ourselves; we just ‘get’ each other, even if we’re from different cultural backgrounds. When you’re a black person amongst white people though, there seem to be a million bajillion things you have to explain about yourself and your life.

And most of the time, black people don’t bother explaining because it’s too much of an effort.

In the interests of promoting social understanding and togetherness, here’s a list of things that white people need to know about black people. Very importantly, not all black people are the same, so not all of these will apply equally. Lovely friends, here are 16 things that black people need to explain to their white friends:

1 ‘Bring and share’ parties are a white people thing.
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On Becoming a Statistic

Originally posted on JulyWrites:

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I got robbed.

Saturday. On the eve of Africa Day. The midday sun at its highest and brightest. Plenty of weekend hipsters, part time cool kids and once off tourists milling about. Thieves broke into my car stealing from the boot a bag which held a lap top with my would be Caine Prize winning work, a camera with the sweetest of memories, a cell phone, bank card, ID, passport and the last tube of my favourite MAC lipstick which has now been discontinued.

Realising that some faceless entity has ventured into your personal space uninvited and helped themselves to your things, the things which in all likelihood you sweated for, saved for, scrimped for and maybe even scavenged for. Man that feeling is the choking kind.

I had to stop myself from shedding grown woman tears in an adolescent fashion and put my big girl bloomers on. Making a…

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Tribute: To A Phenomenal Woman

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Maya Angelou 1928 – 2014

 

I know a lot’s been said about her in the last day or so, but it would be a huge injustice if I did not take some time to pay tribute to our dear Dr Maya Angelou.

It was with a heavy heart that I read the news of her passing, having been the one woman who made me want to write in the first place.

I have always been an avid reader, but it was not until, at 15 when I did an English class project on Maya Angelou, that I decided I wanted to try my hand at writing. I remember standing in front of the class, reciting “Still I Rise” with a certain Miss Dionne Song, and recognizing for the first time, the immense power that words have in our world…recognizing their magic working in and through me, and I have never looked back since.

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Dr Maya Angelou’s last tweet

It was easy to be inspired and motivated with a mentor like Maya, a woman who lived her life to the absolute fullest. She was, after all, an extraordinary human being who managed to touch the lives of millions worldwide through her almost ethereal command of language. Works of fiction, non-fiction, poetry and plays, all textured with depth and wisdom and peppered with her youthful sense of humour. She was unconventional, confident, fearless, graceful, brilliant and a phenomenal woman.

“If you must look back, do so forgivingly. If you must look forward, do so prayerfully. However, the wisest thing you can do is be present in the present… Gratefully.”

During her exemplary life, she breezed in like a breath of fresh air, inspiring millions, teaching the multitudes, trying to help whomever she could and stealing accolade after accolade from those who, unsuspectingly, had underestimated her. Until one day she was able to look back and see titles such as Author, Poet, Singer, Dancer, Director, Playwright, three-time Grammy Award winner, Civil rights activist, Mother & Teacher.

The epitome of what is means to be a real woman, with every facet celebrated and loved, she has inspired me to bolder routes, comforted me in darker times, uplifted my spirits in sorrow, and provided words of wisdom galore.

You will be sorely missed Dr Angelou.

 

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Be inspired to be great.

Be blessed to be a blessing.


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Lil’ Fashionistas

It’s Fashion Friday again!!!!!

A long time ago, perhaps in another life time, children spent the entirety of their days outside, getting dirty, playing in mud puddles, climbing trees, skinning knees and eating mud pies.

So understandably, fashion was the domain of the teens and adults, but things have changed, and children’s fashion is carving a new niche in a fast expanding market that was once reserved only for the select few. I’m all for allowing kids to remain kids for as long as possible but I wont lie, I love little things in high-end gear or just looking well put together and adorable in fashionable pieces.

Below are a few cute lil’ fashionistas I’ve come across:

 

 


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Elie Saab – Designer of My Dreams

It’s been a while since I’ve posted a Fashion Fridays post but today is that day!

Profile: Elie Saab

Reason: Because he is freaking awesome!!

I’ve never been one to follow fashion so closely as to recognize designer’s outfits and signatures and the like, but Elie Saab changed all that for me. It was easy to recognize his work simply because I loved every single thing he made.

Here are some selections from his 2014 RTW Spring Collection:

 

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If you wanna check out some more of his work, go to: http://www.eliesaab.com/en/ready-to-wear/ss-2013

Thank me later ;-)

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The Secret To Happy Boobs

 

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I have been in a love-hate relationship with my breasts since they were naught but buds.

At 12, all my friends had them, so I prayed real hard and BOOM, little buds appeared.

These buds grew and grew and GREW and GREW until overnight, I had sprouted a fully-grown woman’s chest, so at 14 I was praying for “a little bit less please!”.

By 24 I had finally grown into them, but I was still, by normal standards, top-heavy and I had spent over a decade stuffing and squeezing my tatas into all manner of pretty spandex and lace infused prisons, trying to control an obviously-uncontrollable force of nature.

I have suffered through the pains of trying to wear small strappy tops and spilling out of them from all sides. I wore a JT-One top ONCE, and learnt my lesson pretty quickly. I struggled for years, trying to find a strapless bra that could handle “all this”, and after spending my friends wedding in the ultimate strapless, ended up with red welts lining my back and sides. I eventually came to the comfortable conclusion that some things are just not meant for me. I have an ample D-cup bosom that will always require a bra at ALL times and I will always be adjusting things in here it seems. They will NEVER look like the ones in the Triumph and Jockey adverts. Jogging will always be an exercise in Baywatch-esque spectacles for the men in passing cars. Strapless dresses with pretty bustiers are not in my future and backless tops are a no-no (unless if I will be wearing a jacket ofcourse ;-)). The bigger they get, the less I (or any of the store clerks) understand about how to find a decent bra. When I take off my bra, my breasts will fall a centimetre or two (tee hee hee) and they will always migrate towards the warmth of my armpits when I lie down. They are not the stuff of porn movies, they are real and soft and natural. That is how the good Lord meant them to be ladies and you never need feel ashamed or apologise for this.

So after all my experiences, it makes me sad to know that there are girls out there living with very unrealistic expectations, with bee-sting breasts wishing they had more to fill out their tops, and young ladies with

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bazoonkas, trying to strap them down to appear flatter-chested because the boys in their 9th Grade classes are making lewd comments. At younger ages, we have no idea how to be comfortable with our bodies, and so, with our breasts. Big or small, they are usually a minor pain at some point or another and unfortunately, there is not enough conversation out there to teach us how to be comfortable with ourselves.

This morning I came across a lady who claims to have found the trick in measuring yourself for your proper size and I will be trying it soon. She also posted this helpful video:

So for the trick:

1: Take measuring tape and measure yourself around your ribcage, where your bra band would normally sit and exhaleWrite down that number.

2. Bend over at a 90 degree angle, with your boobs dangling in front of you. Wrap the measuring tape loosely around your back and dangling bust (you might need help for this one), and write that number down.

3. Now take those two numbers and subtract them, (i.e. 49-38 = 11). Now take that number and using the chart below, find your cup size.

The first measurement you got, your band size, plus your cup size from the chart is what you should be looking for in the chart.

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Please let me know if any of you try it and how it works out ;-)

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Quote Me

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Asking me if I have a favourite quote is like asking the Cookie Monster if he has a favourite flavour…pretty pointless.

Like songs, I have many favourite quotes, one for every situation and emotion probably but there are those that have followed me through life like a stubborn STD, always coming up when I least expect it and reminding me why I first fell in love with literature and the written word. I’m that girl at work who is drowning in all the Post-It notes stuck on and around her cubicle, with little encouraging and funny quotes scrawled on them. From the thousands of stories I’ve met in my life to the hundreds of movies I’ve seen I hear timeless lines every day. I won’t even mention the songs I listen to nor the poetry I watch.

I mean, who doesn’t still swoon every time they hear Julia Roberts saying, “I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her,” in Nottinghill?

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The first quote that made it into this category for me had to be Jean Kerr’s witty gem about beauty.I loved it the first time I heard it and I have continued to love it since. Funny and still very true, it made me see things a little differently, and I think that’s what I love most about it and others like it. If a few words can make me laugh and still teach me something new, what’s not to love about them?

Another quote that makes it into this category for me has to be from William Shakespeare’s Macbeth. I’m not sure why but Shakespearethere was just something about this particular line that, when I read it, I fell in love with how Shakespeare structured words to create magic. Between this line and the rhymic couplet from Sonnet 116 – “If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved” – Shakespeare showed me just how timeless words can be, even when they have changed.

So although I will never have a favourite quote, it is only because I have such an appreciation for the written word. Everyday I am finding new quotes to love and cherish and I hope you will too.

* Unless it is mad passionate love, it is a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.

* Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you love. It will not lead you astray. – Rumi

* Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.

“For June who loved this garden. From Joseph who always sat beside her.” - Notting Hill

“For June who loved this garden. From Joseph who always sat beside her.” – Notting Hill

 

Do you have a favourite quote that you could share with us?

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