They say pride is a bad thing, but is it really?
I was reading an essay/article by an esteemed South African writer who described pride as “the human measure of human value”. He called pride the only intrinsic indicator of human value, in that it allows us all to know our own value.
Without it, there would be no reason to bath, no reason to clean up after ourselves and no reason to take care of ourselves. Without pride, we would still be living in the stone age because man would never have felt the competitive spirit that has driven the advancements of our technological age.
Pride is what allows us to demand respect from people and situations where without it, we would have been walked all over. It tells us that we deserve more than what has been handed to us and that it is our right to demand better. Take note, this level of pride should be clearly distinguished from the sense of entitlement that might lead one to believe that they deserve more than has been given to them, but not want to work for it. Yes, you do deserve more, but that doesn’t always mean someone else is supposed to hand it to you on a silver platter.
Now just as with all things, there is a bad side to pride, but we all should know, too much of anything is bad for us. So the same goes for pride.
Most of us just know, without question, that we deserve to be treated in a certain way, that – when applicable – we deserve a higher level of respect than what we are being shown. For me, pride is a constant reminder that I have value, that I should not be talked to in a certain way, that I should not be taken for granted, that I deserve all the joy, happiness, respect and riches the world has to offer, should I want them. If I did not have that constant reminder of my value, I would forget what I am worth and end up being walked all over and eaten alive. Along with this would go all my potential to add what I can to the world, so it actually would be in the world’s general best interest to ensure that I am at all times…well proud.
But do remember, if you are going to depend on the world to know your value, you, along with 95% of the population will end up believing that you are worthless and useless, for it is a competitive world we live in, and people often put other people down in order to get ahead.
So yes, although in high doses it can be a killer, pride is a necessary ingredient to survive in the world we are living in. In fact, it is necessary to not only make something of yourself, but to succeed as a person.
So walk tall, walk with pride. Let no man or woman force you to forget your value.
“There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout: This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me…or leave me. Accept me – or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be and don’t try to change me to fit your mould. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision. When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad – you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.”
– Stacey Charter